Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Great Ways to be Unhappy

From today's Relief Society lesson:

 
1) Believe that you must have it all now.
This mentality is running rampant through our society, creating discontent everywhere.

Yes, we are free to choose the mortal perks with their short shelf life. However, ahead lies that great moment when every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is the Christ! (see Mosiah 27:31; D&C 88:104). Then the galleries and the mortal thrones will be empty. Even the great and spacious building will fall—and resoundingly! (see 1 Ne. 8:26–28). Then, too, those who have lived without God in the world will confess that God is God! (see Mosiah 27:31). Meanwhile, His character and attributes should evoke adoration and emulation from us.” (The Tugs and Neal A. Maxwell, Pulls of the World, Ensign, October 2000)

Don’t give up what you want most, for what you want now.
Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:
But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:19-21

2) Allow “them” to dictate your priorities
Every time we walk into a store, open a magazine or turn on the TV we are bombarded with images that shape our perspective on what’s important.

Satan has a powerful tool to use against good people.  It is distraction.   He would have good people fill life with "good things" so there is no room for the essential ones.  Have you unconsciously been caught in that trap?....   
"Are there so many fascinating, exciting things to do or so many challenges pressing down upon you that it is hard to keep focused on that which is essential?   When things of the world crowd in, all too often the wrong things take highest priority.   Then it is easy to forget the fundamental purpose of life." (Richard G. Scott, “First Things First,” Ensign, May 2001)
 "If life and its rushed pace and many stresses have made it difficult for you to feel like rejoicing, then perhaps now is a good time to refocus on what matters most..."
"As we turn to our Heavenly Father and seek His wisdom regarding the things that matter most, we learn over and over again the importance of four key relationships: with our God, with our families, with our fellowman, and with ourselves.” (Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Of Things That Matter Most”, Ensign, October 2010)
3) Believe that you’ll be happier when ___________
“I’ll be happier when my kids are out of diapers.” “I’ll be happier when we make more money.” “I’ll be happier when my husband comes home from work.” “I’ll be happier when we move out of Bremerton, or have a bigger house, or when my kitchen has been remodeled.” Really? Will you? How can you be sure? We have no idea what tomorrow will bring. Waiting on happiness only serves to rob you of the only happiness that truly exists – that which is available at this moment.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

The happiest people I know are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, discover and treasure the beauty and sweetness of the everyday moments. They are the ones who, thread by daily thread, weave a tapestry of gratitude and wonder throughout their lives. These are they who are truly happy.” (Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Forget Me Not”, Ensign)

We shouldn’t wait to be happy until we reach some future point, only to discover that happiness was already available—all the time! Life is not meant to be appreciated only in retrospect. ‘This is the day which the Lord hath made …,’ the Psalmist wrote. ‘Rejoice and be glad in it.’ [Psalm 118:24].” Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Ensign, November 2012)

4) Compare yourself to others
Comparing ourselves to others will leave us senselessly unsatisfied and have us seeking contentment where it can never be found.

I testify that no one of us is less treasured or cherished of God than another. I testify that He loves each of us—insecurities, anxieties, self-image, and all. He doesn’t measure our talents or our looks; … He cheers on every runner, calling out that the race is against sin, not against each other.” (Jeffrey R. Holland, “The Other Prodigal”, Ensign, May 2002)

5) Focus on the Negative
In an article titled “Learning Happiness”, Susan B. Healy writes: “Unfortunately, the more we focus on the negative, the more likely that’s all we’ll see. Changing this means we have to consciously bring more attention to the positive things that happen to us.”

This quote brought to mind an experiment that Hilary Weeks did. From her blog:

I heard someone say we think over 300 negative thoughts a day.  I was compelled to find out if that was true.  So I bought a clicker - and started counting.  Each day for one week, I clicked and counted my negative thoughts.  After seven days of clicking each discouraging, gloomy, depressing thought - I felt discouraged, gloomy and depressed!
With that realization, the experiment changed.  What would happen if I clicked all of my positive, uplifting, optimistic thoughts?  Would I feel positive, uplifted and optimistic?
That is exactly what happened.  Clicking heightened feelings of motivation, strength and confidence I had never felt before.”
 
Go to billionclicks.org to watch Hilary’s video and give clicking a try. 
Count your blessings, focus on the positive and be happy.  (IF YOU WERE NOT IN ATTENDANCE TODAY AND WOULD LIKE A CLICKER PLEASE LET ANDREA LEWIS KNOW)




In D&C 121:45 we are taught, “let virtue garnish they thoughts unceasingly.” And in Proverbs 23: 7 - "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he”

“Count your blessings.  Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage and confidence.” ~ Og Mandino

We came to earth to be tested and we’ll have challenges and we’ll be hurt but Heavenly Father didn’t create a plan of despair. He created a Plan of Happiness.

Remember, men are that they might have joy.

You can be happy if you stop judging yourself and recognize your worth,
You can be happy if you give up what you want now for what you want most,
You can be happy if you let go of distractions and remember the purpose of life
You can be happy if you focus on positive uplifting thoughts
You can be happy if you let yourself be!

I pray that this year you will find the joy, beauty and blessings in each day.

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